It’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month, so we turned to our friend and Glitter Girl, Hollye Jacobs, to learn more about dealing with cancer and helping those we love cope with it. Hollye recently released a video on “How to be a Friend to Someone Who Has Cancer,” and we think it’s very important to share.
As of a couple of months ago, I found myself in the rotten position of being a friend to a girlfriend with cancer—AGAIN. In the past two years, I’ve had three other (really good!) girlfriends go through the f-bomb cancer experience. This is one situation in which repetition does NOT make the situation any easier.
Even after having been a nurse and a breast cancer patient, I’m realizing (yet again) just how difficult it is to navigate the cancer experience…as well as how hard it can be to support a friend going through it.
What I really want to do is make it all go away. But since I can’t do that, I’m doing my best to follow my own advice and repeat the same loving, thoughtful, and helpful actions that people did for me when I had breast cancer (with high hopes that it is a wee bit of a Silver Lining for her!).
This video outlines some valuable ways to be a friend to someone who has cancer from my perspective—literally—on both sides of the bed. Often, our best intentions are sidelined by our anxiety and resulting inability to determine what is best for our friend.
I truly hope you never find yourself in a position to watch someone you love have cancer—but if you do, I hope this video will help give you the confidence to be the best and strongest friend possible!
*If you have more questions about cancer and all the mess that goes with it, you can find all the videos in my Silver Lining series here.