Working From Home As A New Mom

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Our contributing lifestyle editor Natalie Borton offers a beautiful reflection on her life as a creative mom who balances work and motherhood full time. 

I first recognized the concept of a stay-at-home and work-at-home lifestyle when my friend Bonnie wrote about it for Darling Magazine. Before reading her piece, I’d really only considered two options for moms: staying at home with babies to be a homemaker, or going back to work and falling into the “working mom” category. The idea that there could be something in the middle really intrigued me, especially since my career isn’t a traditional one to begin with.

When I found out I was pregnant with my son Jack, my mind was a whirlwind of possibilities as well as anxiety. Before he came into the picture, I felt like I was really on a roll career-wise. I had a lot of big dreams for what I’d do professionally—and even entrepreneurially. A positive pregnancy test, a confirmation at the doctor’s and one more test at home for good measure changed everything. Would I continue blogging? Would I move forward with my existing entrepreneurial plans? Or would I drop everything to be all in for motherhood?

I felt thankful that my new role would at least keep me at home. But at the same time, I was fearful that I’d either resent my new baby for taking me away from work I was passionate about (how’s that for honesty?), or that I’d start to let my work slide and become unprofessional. After tons of conversations over mocktails with my husband Brian while I was pregnant last year, I decided to say goodbye to a few short-term dreams but hang on to my blog and my role as a contributing editor at Glitter Guide—two things that have brought me joy and creative opportunities for years.

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Now, nine months into motherhood, I’m fully entrenched in my stay-at-home, work-at-home lifestyle—and for the most part, it’s working out. I get everything done during nap times—precious, precious nap times. When Jack is awake, we play, explore, go for walks and giggle. And when my husband is home, we engage in conversation, drink wine, eat dinner, bond. Laundry gets done when I remember it. Meals are more semi-homemade than made from scratch (I’ve never been more thankful for Trader Joe’s). Cleaning gets done once a month by a very nice lady named Esther, who is a complete lifesaver.

Do I wish I had more time to get things done? Yes, yes, yes. But at the same time, I really love this little arrangement I have going on. I delight in spending this precious time with my baby, who is already growing up faster than I’d like. And I also cherish the time I have while he sleepstime to be creative and feel like an adult (which gives me plenty of non-baby things to talk about when I interact with other humans during the week). And time to drink a full cup of coffee while it’s actually hot.

Every other week or so, I think about my friends who have chosen one way or the other—staying at home or working in an office—and for a moment, I envy the nature of their time. They know where they need to be and what they need to do, and their hours may not be as undefined as mine. But then I think about my personality—how I basically hate working for anyone but myself, and how grateful I am for the chance to watch Jack learn to sit up, eat bananas with his hands and try his darnedest to crawl forward rather than backward (which, for the record, he finally figured out). This stay-at-home, work-at-home life isn’t for everyone, but I’m sure glad it’s working out for me so far.

Written by Natalie Borton
Photography by Chrissy Powers

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Author: Natalie Borton

Natalie is a San Diego-based jewelry designer and blogger who covers style, motherhood, wellness and life. Find her on Instagram at @natalieborton!

  • Such a great post! I too am trying to determine which category I will fall into as my twins continue to get older and I desperately want to stay home with them. I have been trying the WFH Mommy thing for a month now and so far so good…gotta LOVE those naps. But if for some reason one of the boys goes on a Nap Strike I know that means I have to carve out some time from another part of the day. All about juggling right?!

    Strive to thrive,

  • I would love the opportunity to be a stay home working mom. Attack my dreams and watch my kids grow up are the 2 most important thing to me. I am still working on that dream and this post gives me hope and faith that i will be successful.

  • My job as a Virtual Assistant allows me to do both also. I would encourage any woman who wants to stay home with her family and work to check it out. Such a lovely article.

  • Wonderful post! My son is absolutely the most important job in my life. I also know that my dreams and goals have to be a priority. Balance the two is a struggle, but worth every second of my busy day! ??

  • I was a working mom with my first and was miserable. I hated leaving her everyday and missing milestones. So with our second I decided to stay home. I’m going to be honest here and say that it was difficult to transition to being a SAHM. Thankfully, I’ve been able to find something that allows me to get my creative juices going and interact with others and have some sort of (very small) income. So for any of you mommas out there struggling with being a SAHM know that it’s hard and it happens. Hopefully, we can all find something that makes us feel like our first name while still being called mommy. xx

  • Great post! It sounds like you’ve got the best of both worlds – time at home with your little one, *and* work you love. Enjoy nap time while you’ve still got it!

  • Thanks so much for publishing this expose. I’ve been doing this for 2 1/2 years and it’s a struggle, but I’m so thankful for the opportunity to be with my kids. It’s especially hard when your entourage assumes you’re not working because you spend your days at home. You get labeled as a stay at home mom, because you are, but you can’t volunteer, be present, or contribute to functions like a SAHM’s can and friends and family don’t always understand. Anyway, thanks again for bringing awareness to the WAHM’s out there :)

  • I resonate with this post on so many levels; I’m so glad I’m not the only one. Another thing to add is that SAHM/WAHM isn’t exactly something most people really understand because we’re trained to think home does not equal work. I still feel like most people in my life don’t value or take my work seriously, which is something I’ve learned to not let me down. Go us!

    xo, Irina |

  • I’ll be curious how it works out as your son gets older. I found it was easy to work during naps and some nights too, until he really started walking and getting way more active (and less naps!) around 15 months. I would love any tips from moms w/ toddler kids!

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