Below, Mara Ferreira and Leila Lewis share a peek inside the baby shower thrown to honor Mara’s future firstborn (due next month!). Plus, Mara offers insight into how new moms can learn to find balance.
From Mara: Right around the time that I launched M Loves M in 2009, I had no thoughts or expectations that it could turn into a career possibility. Even in 2011, when I was having issues searching for a job, I didn’t think that this hobby of mine could turn into anything sustainable. The only bloggers that were making a living on their sites were also models or shoe designers. Now, however, my site has turned into a way that I can really help support my family. While my site has always had a lifestyle feel to it, I have been conflicted on how the transition to motherhood is going to affect my site. And furthermore, I’ve worried about how I’m going to juggle both.
While I still consider my blog to be a hobby and something I enjoy, it’s also a great deal of work. I think there’s a common misperception that blogging is easy. However, it requires a lot of time, energy and organization. I sometimes feel like I don’t have enough hours in the day to get everything done. Now imagine adding a child on top of that! It seems a little overwhelming! I reached out to some of my friends to ask them how they do it and they gave me some very practical tips that I’m hoping to incorporate with my little one.
Come up with a game plan.
Some of my friends have told me that it’s important to have a game plan when it comes to how you’re going to accomplish work. Are you going to hire a nanny, look into day care or cut back on work. Whatever it is, think through those options before you have the baby so that if you need to hire someone or look into day care, you have the time to do so.
I think there’s a common misperception that blogging is easy. However, it requires a lot of time, energy and organization. I sometimes feel like I don’t have enough hours in the day to get everything done. Now imagine adding a child on top of that! It seems a little overwhelming!
Set hours and be focused.
With a baby comes a new type of schedule. Take advantage of naptimes to send emails, plan shoots or even catch up on your own sleep. Try to set work hours for yourself and be focused during them so that when you’re not working, you can enjoy time with your baby.
Limit distractions and time-wasters.
Be disciplined and limit distractions. That might mean saying “no” to events, falling behind on the latest season of your favorite TV show or avoiding watching other people’s Snapchats. Try to minimize the activities that take away from spending time with your family or getting your work done. While it’s important to still have your “me” time, you want to make sure these distractions aren’t causing you to fall behind or become stressed.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Motherhood comes with a lot of new responsibilities and challenges. Accept that there will be good and bad days, and let go of the guilt.
Find your support system.
Having a partner that understands your passion for work is so important! They can help relieve you of specific duties so that you can get work accomplished. Maybe it means that they take responsibility for a certain feeding, or they give you a few hours of undivided work time on Saturday mornings. Whatever it is, feel free to rely on them and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Grandmas and best friends are often happy to come over and play with the baby, too!
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Grandmas and best friends are often happy to come over and play with the baby, too!
Give yourself a break.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Motherhood comes with a lot of new responsibilities and challenges. Accept that there will be good and bad days, and let go of the guilt. I’m hoping my readers will understand that there is a shift in my priorities. If I have to miss a day of posting, it’s not the end of the world. I need to remember that family comes first—as well as my own sanity and well-being!
Baby Shower Vendors & Resources:
- Mama-to-be: Mara Ferreira
- Produced by: Leila Lewis of Be Inspired PR
- Photography: Valorie Darling
- Venue: Lombardi House
- Rentals: Circa Vintage Rentals
- Catering: Canyon Catering
- Florals: Foxtail Florals
- Stationery: Minted
- Desserts: Beverly’s Bakery
- Wine: ONEHOPE Wine
- Signage: Happily Ever Etched
- Pinwheel Backdrop: Posh Soirée