Lanie List, founder of Lovely Bride, is no stranger to stress at work and at home, but she’s discovered a few tricks along her journey as an entrepreneur and mother that keep the playful vibe alive. Read on for her top-three suggestions that will have you going from grimacing to grinning in a matter of minutes!
My entire mission in starting Lovely Bride was to create an aspirational environment for brides that is fun, inviting and eases the stress of dress shopping. But you know what? It is stressful to have to choose just one beautiful dress, especially with the added opinions of friends, siblings and mothers. So instead of saying we are just for ‘laid-back brides,’ I’ve come to realize that it’s best to embrace everyone, and I work hard to help ease the tensions that come with wedding dress shopping. The added bonus for me is that I get to play therapist at times, which I love! We’ve built so many great tools along the way that really help define us as a brand, and that also enhance our personal lives. Below, I’m sharing three of the ways I’ve managed to bring playful vibes to the office and our home!
1. Displays of Affirmation
I love that social media has made us a ‘quoting culture.’ Quotes aren’t just for dentist offices anymore! I’m not always the best at being verbally rah-rah at work or home, so I’ve been framing cool quotes and changing them every few months. We have a huge vinyl quote wall at Lovely New York and it just hits you in the face with positivity when you start your day. Currently, we have ‘You Got This’ on the wall. My favorite at home is a Loch Ness Monster image that says, ‘The Important Thing Is That I Believe In Myself.’
2. Make Recognition Public
Giving someone praise for a job well-done is essential for me at work and at home. It’s so easy to tell my son, “Great job!” when it comes the effort he made, but when I call his grandma to tell her what he just accomplished, he’s grinning from ear to ear. I think it really makes the praise stick and (hopefully) cements the lesson of good deeds in him. At work, public recognition has so many added benefits. The employee feels like a rockstar, you are creating a loyal tribe of employees and others want to ‘level up’ to set similar examples.
3. Schedule Fun Time
It may sound like an oxymoron to “schedule fun,” but I believe we are always fun people—we just don’t activate it because we are all so busy. I have a dance party with my kids at 6 p.m. sharp every evening. It’s not only something my kids look forward to (because in general, kids thrive on schedules), but it’s also a perfect reminder for me to turn off my phone and make the effort to bond. Even if I’m coming off of a particularly trying work email, about 15 seconds into the sweat, I’m giggling and having a blast.