With Mother’s Day around the corner it got my thinking a lot about my own mother. There are so many things my mother has taught me. When I sat down to write this post, I had a hard time choosing one thing. I feel lucky to have such an amazing woman in my life to help shape and guide me. When thinking about my mom, the word that comes to mind most often is ‘strong.’ She is the strongest woman I know. Her strength is inspiring. She’s dealt with many hardships in her life and yet she manages to stay positive, passionate and optimistic. That’s something I hope to model to my own children.
My mom also has incredible drive. When thinking of a trait she’s passed down to me, a relentless drive to succeed is one that we both share. I think when you’re a mom and you’re trying to grow a successful business, you have to have an almost nonsensical belief in yourself because you are going to face doubt and obstacles around every corner. You also need the ability to push through hard times. Both these things I’ve seen time and again in my mom.
My mom has always been amazing at believing in herself. No matter what it is she puts 100 percent into it. She also pushes herself to change and grow even to this day, which I find so inspiring. Growing up, I didn’t really recognize all that my mom did and how much she was juggling. Now, being a working mom of two, I see how much of her heart she poured into things so that she could be successful while also giving my sister and me a great life. One way I’ve been able to do this for my children is to designate a space in my home where I work and create working hours. Running my business out of my home is a privilege—I get to have a flexible schedule and spend more time with my kids. It also means I can work at all hours, which isn’t healthy. In the beginning, I used to do that, but now I want to make sure I spend quality time with my family. So it’s important that I create boundaries. It’s a work in progress, especially because I’m a workaholic, but I’ve gotten much better.
Another thing that is amazing about my mom is her ability to continually reimagine herself. She is an amazing nurse, but she’s dabbled in photography, real estate, floral arranging, landscaping, you name it and she’s tried it. What’s crazy is she’s really good at everything she tries. That’s something I think people take for granted. You don’t have to just stick with your job and not explore other ideas. She has always kept a steady job while juggling new ventures, and I think that really shaped me. I’m not afraid of hard work, juggling a lot of projects and pushing hard for things I want. I really have her to thank for that. Even at 64, she’s thinking about all the things she’s going to do in her retirement, and I think that’s so refreshing.
My husband jokes that my grandma, mom, sister and I all have this relentless obsession with being busy. I guess in some ways that’s true. We thrive off of it. However, I think one thing that is true for many of the women in my family is we aren’t afraid of hard work. If there is a project, party or job that needs to get done, we buckle down and we make it happen—blood, sweat and tears. That dedication has really helped me when managing my business and motherhood. There are days where it is painful how much I need to get done, but I want to be successful, so I make the time.
Having a desire to succeed sounds like a simple thing. Doesn’t everyone have that? I’ve found that in my 10 years of working in the online industry that it’s not always the case. Or that many have the desire, but not the disciple to put in the time. I’m thankful that my mom instilled these two traits in me. They are such important factors in running a successful business.
If there is anything else I’ve recognized while working on this story, it’s that I should tell my mom how incredible she is more often. I’m off to do that now!
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