It’s often said that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have, and we have to agree! Self-confidence is not always easy for everyone to achieve, so Arin is sharing tips that can help boost confidence and leave you feeling positive and happy.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our life—yet, sometimes, we struggle to find it. When you’re confident in your abilities, you inspire others and it most definitely shows in your work. When you lose that bigger picture, and drown in self-doubt (our mind can be a dangerous place), you’re going in reverse. Today, I’m sharing some of my favorite ways to boost confidence and get out of that rut! Remember: ‘It works if you work it! Fake it ’til you make it!’
I’m also sharing five of my favorite confidence-boosting books below, so don’t miss out!
- Set small goals: Small goals, people. We often shoot for the moon, and get highly discouraged when we fail. Shoot for something that’s much more attainable/achievable. Think of these as small stepping stones that are leading you closer to the end result. I’m also a huge fan of making lists. Nothing feels better than crossing off an accomplished task! It’s a great mental exercise—small victories!
- Smile: This may sound cheesy (get it?) but, whenever I smile, I instantly feel better. It not only impacts yourself, but others around. Smiling to a stranger can have a chain reaction, so pay it forward!
- Do something: Not just anything, but something you’ve been putting off. What’s been sitting on your to-do lists for weeks on end? Get this out of the way first thing—you’ll feel so great about yourself for finally accomplishing the little devil! It seriously does wonders for your confidence, try it out for yourself.
- Get organized: When things are chaotic, and organization is lacking, it’s going to affect your end result. It’s hard to be successful when tasks are being forgotten, or rushed. Have a plan of attack every day of the week. Block your time accordingly—set aside time for checking e-mails, response times, working out, etc.
- Achievement log: Similar to a gratitude journal, keep an achievement log. Whenever I’m feeling down, I try to focus on the things I’ve already accomplished. Contributing to Whitney Port and Glitter Guide are up there for me! When things feel like they’re falling apart, remember: you’ve come so much farther than last year! Keep this somewhere digitally, so it’s easy to pull up whenever you’re having a moment.
- Stop comparing: Ah, the comparison thief! For me, when I focus on everyone else’s success, it drives me into a deep hole! I actually wrote an entire post on this here, so definitely check it out!
- Be yourself: I absolutely love this quote, ‘You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.’ Not everyone is going to like you. I’ve struggled with this my entire life, but it’s true! You can’t control what others think, or do, so stop dwelling on these people. They are doing nothing for you. Here’s a bonus tip: work extra hard to distract yourself from negative mind games.
- Body language: Head up, soldier! Uncross your arms, turn that frown upside down and move with purpose. This does require a level of self-awareness, but whenever you carry yourself highly, chances are you’ll feel better. Try it now: walk around with your head up, confident and smiling. Practice this for a few minutes each day (I know it sounds ridiculous), but it really does wonders for your confidence/mood. Remember: people who stand tall/confident are more attractive. It’s a chain effect.
- Work it out: This is the answer to every problem, I swear. Nothing feels better than a great sweat after a long day! Get those endorphins moving, and energy levels up! You’re going to have a great day. It’s also a great distraction from those negative thoughts—feed your body positivity; physically, mentally and spiritually.
- Read uplifting books: Anyone else a self-help junkie? I absolutely love reading uplifting, positive books—it resets my mind, and gets me pumped for what’s ahead. Here are five of my favorite confidence-boosting books to read: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life // Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear // The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are // Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead // Love Warrior (Oprah’s Book Club): A Memoir.
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