Having a baby is such a special time in a person’s life, but it can bring about many changes—physically, emotionally and even socially. Having a baby can create distance with even the best of friends. Luckily, there are ways to help maintain strong relationships with friends after having a baby, and Arin is here to share a few that will help you and your friends stay close no matter what.
Having a baby will undoubtedly change your life, including those treasured relationships with your friends/family. While babies can cause an infectious excitement, you can’t expect all of your friends to oooh and ahh at every milestone. Gone are the days when you’d grab some impromptu cocktails and meet up for a boozy-brunch, but having kids doesn’t mean your relationship needs to suffer. While it’s a transitional period for all involved, there’s many ways to stay close to your BFF after baby. The key is flexibility and forward thinking. Here are our top five favorite ways!
- Text often: You have the easy ability to stay in touch with your friends from anywhere in the world! While I don’t have a baby yet (almost!), I’ve had friends express that it can feel a bit isolating, especially in the beginning. It’s important to check in with your loved ones and send them sweet thoughts. Make sure you’re checking in on the new mom (and vice-versa!), letting her know you’re thinking of her throughout! Ahem: it takes two seconds.
- Invite people over: It’s a bit harder to get out with a baby (especially when breastfeeding/pumping), so invite your friends/family to you! Putting up a wall won’t do much to keep your relationships going. Invite friends and family to visit, but have someone take care of the baby so you can enjoy some much-needed time with friends, too. Whether it’s a brunch or “The Bachelor/The Bachelorette” viewing, it’s important that you have some bonding with your nearest and dearest. No excuses!
- Set up dates: Schedule a date with your BFF’s (I recommend at least once a month) to get out of the house and enjoy yourself. After all, you deserve it. Life with a baby is incredibly chaotic/busy, so it’s important that you actually schedule these dates ahead or you’ll forget and get washed up by life’s spit-up!
- Hold the baby talk: Unless your friends bring it up, try not to talk baby 24/7 (I know it’s hard!). Utilize this time to talk about YOU. Again, this doesn’t mean they don’t care about you or your baby. If they ask, address it, and casually move onto another subject. It’s important that you get away from the baby-world for just a couple of hours from time to time. Reminisce and look back at your favorite memories together. Get a good laugh in while you’re at it! Seriously, you’ll be glad you did.
- Create a new tradition: While the boozy brunches may not be as often as you’d like, create new traditions with your friends. Maybe it’s a hike, strolling around a new neighborhood or having cozy takeout nights at home. Whatever it is, create something that makes everyone feel together again. This can be something super small, or big. I know a friend who actually plans an annual vacation with her BFFs. While that may not be attainable for everyone, it’s still a great way to maintain those close relationships.