We see the term “self-love” all over the media these days. Body-positive Instagram accounts, self-help books and seminars, speeches with “You go girl!” messages. But even while being surrounded by all that inspiration, it can be tough to love yourself sometimes. We are our own worst critic after all.
If you needed a little extra motivation though, we have another reason to love on yourself: It makes it easier to love on others. With Valentine’s Day coming up, everyone’s mind is on L-O-V-E! But even as you focus on your partner this time of year, we also want you to focus on yourself. Our contributor, Kaleigh Glaza, is here with some helpful tips and ideas on loving yourself.
It’s never a bad time to love yourself
The. Time. Is. Now. The time is always now! If you don’t have a loving relationship with your own mind, body and soul…what the heck are you waiting for?! There really is no downside to loving yourself. Positives, on the other hand, include:
- Liking what you see in the mirror
- Spontaneous smiles and maybe even a little burst of laughter
- Acceptance of others, including your partner, for just who they are
- More time for love, less time for criticism
The list goes on!
When they go low…
There will be times where someone out there makes you feel bad about yourself. That might be a co-worker, or your family or something you see on Instagram. It might even be your partner. No matter the person or the reason, life is bound to get you down on yourself at some point or another.
That’s when you need to remember the words of everyone’s girl crush, Michelle Obama. “When they go low, we go high.”
All this means for you is whenever you’re feeling down, it’s really up to YOU to lift yourself up. Remind yourself of all the things that you love about yourself and the things you’re good at. There are plenty of things to be proud of! You just need to remember.
It makes you a better partner
Understanding. Forgiveness. Support. Patience. These are all the hallmarks of a good emotional relationship, and people work on them a lot when they’re a couple. It’s easier to feel these things for your partner, however, if you already feel them for yourself!
It’s much harder to be patient with your own flaws. To understand your own weaknesses. To support yourself through your own failings. By practicing those feelings for yourself, it will make them come even more naturally when dealing with your partner.
And even a better friend!
That also applies to your friendship relationships. Sure, we are focusing on couples here, but it all comes together! Being a good person makes you a better spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/life partner…and it makes you a better friend, too! Start with you, and the whole world follows.
At the end of the day, you only have yourself
This might sound like a depressing end, but it’s really not. There will come a time in everyone’s life where you can only rely on yourself. It might be a challenge at work, or a fitness goal you need to achieve or a loss that you need to overcome. And yes, you will have the support of your partner and others. You can set goals and buy self-help books and take classes.
But in the end, you will need to find it within yourself to come out on the other side. You will have to work within and slowly become a better, stronger, more awesome version of you. And when you do, knowing that you did it all on your own…well that’s the best feeling in the world!
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