I tried really hard not to have that song from “Frozen” in my head when I started writing this post. You know which one I’m talking about.
I’m not big on resolutions (I feel like I’ve mentioned that a lot this month 😂), but I am a fan of entering into the new year with a fresh slate, mentally. Once you’ve set your New Year’s intentions
and goals, you have so much to look forward to. And with a new season, comes the inevitable time to leave things in the past. Don’t start out 2020 heavy-hearted or anxious. Take a deep breath, sage your house
and let that shit go.
The glorification of “busy”
This is a really bad habit we’ve all formed since the dawn of the social media age. Everywhere you turn, you can ask someone how they are and the response will be, “Oh, just busy with work, life, blah blah blah.” We’re all guilty of it. The glorification of business actually affects our wellbeing. So often we tend to view being busy as a badge of honor or a way to establish status and a sense of worth. Being busy can possibly offer us a sense of assurance that we have secured a social place within our community. We see ourselves as plugged in, connected and valued, and assume other people likely see us the same way as we continue to demonstrate our excessively busy behavior. No more! Being overly busy is just asking for emotional and physical overload.
Once we stop glorifying a state of business, we will find an improved physical health, greater peace and joy, and better, more connected, relationships.
Bad financial habits
Money is a weird thing. Everyone handles it differently. I mean, I have my masters in corporate finance and can crunch numbers all day long, but do not
ask me to balance my own checkbook 😂. Let’s make 2020 the year we ditch frivolous spending and help mature our financial habits
. Make it a goal this year to start a retirement plan or a rainy day savings fund. Even if you’re already good at saving, challenge yourself to pay off a certain debt that has been lingering. Leave the irresponsible and unorganized financial habits in 2019.
Repeat after me, you are not required to attend any social event you don’t want to. Sometimes it is truly better for your mental health to stay home
, but we get caught up in not wanting to disappoint people. But trust me, true friends will not hold it against you if you choose to not participate. Especially if you’re an introvert, you need that time to recharge and refocus. If you’re constantly going from one social event to the next, it sucks the energy right out of you. Forget social guilt and focus on what really feels best for you.
Whether it be in your romantic relationships or work life, keeping score does nothing but harbor resentment. If you’re constantly mentally keeping track of all the nice things you’ve done for others only to note how their own efforts don’t stack up, chances are, you’re sabotaging your own happiness with your scorekeeping. This new year, clear the scoreboard. Focus on all the positive aspects of your relationships and stop treating them like a competition.
There has always been an unspoken timeline for what ages you should have accomplished X, Y and Z. You might even have set these mental goals for yourself, i.e. “I want to be married by 30, first kid by 32.” But we don’t have control over the timeline. Instead of caring what society thinks of where we are on the timeline, let go of that fear and set goals that will improve our lives weekly, monthly and yearly. Life will fill in the gaps in between goals, just the way it’s meant to be.