I’ll never forget one of the first times I really recognized I was an introvert. It was only a few years ago. My daughter was just under a year old and I was feeling terrible. I thought that I could handle juggling working from home while I watched my daughter, but I was struggling. Except, not in the way you might expect. It was in a shameful way, I felt like I didn’t enjoy parenting as much as my friends. I had a sense I was introverted, but it wasn’t until I had my daughter and my entire life became so stimulating, busy and demanding that I truly connected the dots. Once I realized that my introversion was causing me to feel overstimulated and depleted, I was able to prioritize quiet time more and enjoy being a mom. I would sneak in five to ten minutes to go and sit in my bedroom to recalibrate. And eventually, I got childcare so that I could be a more nourished and happy parent.
We’ve been calling attention to introversion here because Samantha and I are both introverts. However, I want to be clear that being extroverted and introverted isn’t binary. It’s a spectrum. Everyone has their own unique mixture that is true to their personality. I’m actually quite extroverted in a lot of situations. I’m not particularly shy, but I do prefer solitary work and smaller groups. If I have a lot of busy, outgoing days, I need to retreat for a while to gather the energy to do it again.
It’s a beautiful thing when you learn what fuels you and then make it a priority without guilt and shame. It’s empowering.
This month, we will explore things like: building a network as an introvert, why eating alone is so rad, why you should join an e-book club and so much more!
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